Gottman has a number of principles he believes create the foundation for a happy relationship however they all revolve around one thing – friendship.
Benefits of a relationship based on friendship:
Gottman’s additional principles:
Be involved in your partner’s world
Pay attention to each other regularly
Allow your partner to influence you
There is no doubt that maintaining a long term relationship can be difficult and there will be inevitable obstacles and challenges. Maintaining a happy relationship involves accepting that there is no perfect relationship and that there will be times of frustration and disenchantment, but persisting with investing in the relationship regardless. As Gottman advises, this is certainly made easier by fostering a foundation of friendship and mutual respect.