Attachment Style Quiz – Venus Empowered

There are many factors that influence a person’s attachment style, and it can change over time and with different partner dynamics. Under extreme stress, or triggered by intense emotion, we tend to return to the attachment patterns created by our early childhood experiences. Take this short, 10 question quiz to get an indication of what your current attachment style is.

When you’re in a relationship, how do you feel about emotional closeness?

I struggle to trust people and tend to keep my distance.

I constantly want to be emotionally closer to my partner.

I enjoy independence and sometimes feel overwhelmed by too much closeness.

I thrive on deep connections and feel secure.

How do you usually respond to conflict with a partner?

I discuss concerns calmly and work towards solutions.

I withdraw or try to avoid difficult conversations.

I become guarded and find it hard to open up.

I feel anxious and worry about losing them.

When your partner doesn’t respond to a message right away, how do you feel?

I feel frustrated and remind myself not to rely on them too much.

I start overthinking and wonder if they’re upset with me.

I feel fine, but I also prefer keeping some emotional distance.

I assume they’re busy and trust they’ll respond later.

How do you react when a relationship gets really serious?

I feel happy and secure, knowing I can trust my partner.

I get excited but also anxious about potential problems.

I become skeptical and hesitant to fully open up.

I start feeling like I need more space.

How do you feel about expressing your needs in a relationship?

I worry that expressing my needs might push my partner away.

I feel comfortable sharing my needs openly

I am independent and prefer to keep my needs to myself.

I find it hard to trust that my needs will be met.

When your partner is upset, how do you typically respond?

I listen and try to understand their feelings.

I feel anxious and worry that I might have caused their distress.

I feel uncomfortable and try to avoid the situation.

I feel unsure about how to respond and tend to withdraw.

Your partner tells you they have plans with family or friends without you, how do you respond?

I am worried I did something to make them not want to spend time with me.

I’m relieved, I like a lot of time to myself.

I am fine with it; I need time to catch up on some of my own things anyway.

I know I’m going struggle and want to check in with them regularly.

How do you feel about being vulnerable in a relationship?

I feel comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings.

I feel nervous and worry about being judged.

I find it hard to trust anyone with my feelings.

I prefer to keep my vulnerabilities to myself.

How do you feel about discussing difficult topics with your partner?

I feel nervous and worry about how they might react.

I feel comfortable and believe it strengthens our relationship.

I prefer to avoid such conversations to keep the peace.

I feel unsure and tend to withdraw from such discussions.

How do you feel when your partner gives you constructive criticism?

I feel defensive and prefer not to discuss it further.

I feel anxious and worry they might not accept me as I am.

I feel hurt and find it hard to trust their intentions.

I appreciate their honesty and see it as an opportunity to grow

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